Dear Sabatino: When i was 18 i was engaged to a man who abused me, then i met a man while i was still together with my now ex. This other man and i were sleeping together both of us in a relationship. In august i became pregant with my second child, who is Mr. X’s baby.
I’ve been discussing this topic with a few female friends of mine recently and stumbled upon this post today by Pirate over at adventures under my pirate flag. It’s been upsetting lately, as I’m still in the dating game at age thirty, and finding that not only are men not “men” anymore, but women have forgotten how to be ladies. Pirate seems to have the 4-1-1 on this topic so I wanted her to explain it in her own words.
About a year and a half ago I dated a girl with a four year old son. It was my first foray in to fatherhood, a big eye opener, and a great learning experience. Turns out I’m not such a bad Dad, but I found this article over at Alone & Whatnot that I thought could help the men out there looking to dive head first in to a ready-made family.
Not every encounter produces fireworks, dilate your pupils, or make your palms sweat. You gotta look real close. Some just start out with a “she’s got a nice smile” and “he has a great handshake.”
Over time, this may develop into something more –
I scoured the internet, books, dictionaries, and even asked random people on the street about the most worrisome topic I may ever encounter in my life – love. Where do I find it? When will I find it? How will I know? Are you sure this is it? Are we there yet??
It’s been a topic long debated. Can men and women remain friends without advancing their relationship? I think in order to tackle this subject we have to look at a few different variables:
Trust is like your relationship credit score. In so many ways the amount of trust your partner has in you can either make or break your relationship. I like to think of it as my relationship credit score, while it takes time and commitment to maintain healthy levels; it only takes once or twice to bring the whole thing down.
Say what you will, but I love being the big spoon. There’s just something to be said about being so close and finding that you fit together like perfect pieces of a puzzle. Sometimes I crave it. After a long, stressful day when nothing has gone quite right, there’s nothing I want more than to lazily curl up on the couch or in bed with you, pour us a few glasses of wine, and flip through the latest episodes of Boardwalk Empire.