”Too much of anything isn’t good for you”, says my father (and Barry White).
Of course, usually he is referring to the way I eat all of Mom’s homemade chocolate chip cookies [which I will defend to the death are the best EVER], or anything else that I may have been obsessed with over the years. But for our purposes, I’m applying it to the amount of time we spend glued to our significant others. I think Dad would approve.
(Quick side note: Mom, if you’re reading this…if there just so happens to be homemade chocolate chip cookies the next time I come visit, I wouldn’t complain. But I have to warn you, if you make them for me, you have to make them for all of us. I mean ALL of us. You may want to start now.)
Dude, you know she’s totally frantically making cookies right now. That’s just the way she is. You would all receive cookies in the mail if she had addresses. She’s a good egg.
So, okay, right. Too much of your significant other can be a bad thing. Yes. I know it’s hard to believe! You meet someone special, and you’re all hot and heavy for the first six months or so but at what point do you just need some time to yourself? Spending every second of every day with the same person can make things monotonous, and uneventful- it’s just not healthy. Sometimes you have to take small breaks, whether you spend some personal time reading a book, or go out to catch the game with a few of your buddies. It’s these small separations that provide you with what I like to call “staying power”.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m the one who said experiencing new adventures with your love can strengthen your bond, but it’s equally as important to give yourselves a little down time to allow your love to reset. These small respites can rejuvenate yourself, and restore balance between your relationship and personal lives. It will aid you in becoming better communicators, improving the quality of your conversations and opening the door to new subjects and interests that you later can explore together.
Just as I always recommend setting a “date night” for busy couples, I also suggest a “friend night” once per week where the both of you can get out of the house and reconnect with old friends, family, or just take some quiet time alone.
On my agenda today? A bubble bath, a little red wine, probably some mac and cheese- but that’s just how I roll. I know, classy, right?