“To give and not expect return that is what lies at the heart of love.”
- Oscar Wilde
I’ve talked about it a lot, but what exactly is unconditional love?
Merriam-Webster defines unconditional love as “love without limits”. That’s a little vague for me, but here’s what I know.
When we have children, we provide everything to them before providing for ourselves. Sure, they’ll test our patience, and at times make us upset, but that doesn’t mean we stop loving them. Ergo, our love for them is indeed unconditional- it’s without limits.
The same argument could be made for pets. I have a cat named Ernest Hemingway (check my Instagram for pictures) who I adore. Sometimes I am late getting home from work to feed him and sometimes I have to discipline him for scratching at the furniture, but every night without fail he curls up next to me and goes to sleep. It doesn’t matter what happens in our day, he has an unconditional love for me regardless.
So why is it that we have such a hard time showing that same love without limits to our significant others? Yes. Sometimes you’re going to get angry or disappointed with your wife or husband, but should that be the end of your relationship? Are we that upset over a particular issue that we’re ready to give up entirely? A small problem is much more likely to end your relationship before it ends your life. Fix it and move on, or allow it to destroy you. If you’re allowing it to control your love, then I’m afraid you have rocks in your head.
I’ve seen far too many men force their loved ones away because they can’t see past themselves and their own agendas. Put yourself in her shoes, and ask yourself if this is something worth losing her over- because I can promise if you’re not willing to die for her, there’s always someone else who will.