We all define love in our own way.
To some, love is a dark cup of coffee or watching the sun rise over the sea. It could be a strong dedication to a pet, a family member, or a best friend- but what does it mean to love a significant other? What does it mean to truly be in love?
I think sometimes we get so wrapped up in the commercialized love of the silver screen that when we look introspectively at our own relationships, the lines between real and fairytale often become blurred. Unfortunately, as society places less and less emphasis on multi-parent homes, our recent generations don’t have much else to go on.
I would like to say I’ve seen my fair share of couples in love. It seems no matter where I go, they flaunt it in my face, laughing, and pointing at me like “oh, there’s Sabatino, the romantic with no one to love”…but I’m not bitter. Sighs Regardless, when I look at these couples, there’s always one main thing that sticks out- an unspoken and coveted bond.
Do you guys ever watch the television show “How I Met Your Mother”? It’s true, I am obsessed with it for a bunch of reasons, but I often find myself wishing I was in a relationship as open and understanding as the characters Lilly and Marshal. In the show, when they have to tell each other something that they don’t want to reveal to the rest of the group, they can actually read each others thoughts just by staring in to the eyes of their partner. Wouldn’t it be great to have that close of a bond with someone?
So maybe you’re still searching for your version of Lilly or Marshal, but ave you considered they’ve been right under your nose the entire time? That’s right. Love may begin as physical attraction, but ultimately people in love will admit that their partner is also their best friend. Finding someone to share in all of life’s little experiences with can lead to an extremely close bond with a true friend, a partner, and a lover.
You sir are right on the money. I imagine that we often don’t realize just how important that relationship is with the one we love. And when it falters, what do we do? I think often we forget the importance it holds in a relationship, it rides shotgun to our relationship instead of in the drivers seat, providing us with the direction it encourages in the balance of a relationship. It should be right up in the thick of it. They should go hand in hand. Side by side.
Love this! Perfectly said! Baie dankie, skaap!
I love Lilly and Marshall, and my husband, who is my best friend. But, you can also have that in your other relationships. If it’s ok to “love” your friends and coworkers? Especially when you don’t have to speak to share a joke.