If she doesn’t like Lucky Charms, I’m not interested.
I’m talking cereal here.
As I was sitting with a friend last night and waxing poetically on my envisions of love, I made the comment that I would only accept a girl who likes Lucky Charms. It received a chuckle from my friend who then inquired “Is that a deal breaker for you?”. It is.
As I thought about how shallow that whole conversation made me feel, I realized that this wasn’t about cereal at all! In fact, this was about anything BUT breakfast. This was about setting expectations for my future dates and the unwillingness to compromise on them across the board.
“Lucky Charms” wasn’t a deal breaker for me, but not having similar interests absolutely was. Too often we get so scared that we’ll never find love that we begin to compromise on our own expectations for our relationships. This is a slippery slope. If you’re willing to accept someone who isn’t quite meeting your qualifications, then you’re just setting yourself up for failure right from the start. You’re literally not giving your relationship a chance.
I think I have mentioned before that I dated a girl for six years who never wanted to have kids. I am CRAZY about having children some day- yet I thought it could work. Stupid. We clearly wanted different things and I couldn’t get over her until I realized that. I had set us up for failure. I never gave us a chance.
So when you’re evaluating a potential soul mate, be sure to find out as much as you can about them. Don’t be afraid to ask them if they like (insert favorite cereal here) if you feel that’s something important to you. Interview them as if you were hiring for a position at your place of employment. The more you know, the more educated decision you can make about your future together.