If she doesn’t like Lucky Charms, I’m not interested.
I’m talking cereal here.
As I was sitting with a friend last night and waxing poetically on my envisions of love, I made the comment that I would only accept a girl who likes Lucky Charms. It received a chuckle from my friend who then inquired “Is that a deal breaker for you?”. It is.
As I thought about how shallow that whole conversation made me feel, I realized that this wasn’t about cereal at all! In fact, this was about anything BUT breakfast. This was about setting expectations for my future dates and the unwillingness to compromise on them across the board.
“Lucky Charms” wasn’t a deal breaker for me, but not having similar interests absolutely was. Too often we get so scared that we’ll never find love that we begin to compromise on our own expectations for our relationships. This is a slippery slope. If you’re willing to accept someone who isn’t quite meeting your qualifications, then you’re just setting yourself up for failure right from the start. You’re literally not giving your relationship a chance.
I think I have mentioned before that I dated a girl for six years who never wanted to have kids. I am CRAZY about having children some day- yet I thought it could work. Stupid. We clearly wanted different things and I couldn’t get over her until I realized that. I had set us up for failure. I never gave us a chance.
So when you’re evaluating a potential soul mate, be sure to find out as much as you can about them. Don’t be afraid to ask them if they like (insert favorite cereal here) if you feel that’s something important to you. Interview them as if you were hiring for a position at your place of employment. The more you know, the more educated decision you can make about your future together.
nice!
This was a very sweet post (:
Thanks so much!
Honey Nut Cheerios is my deal breaker
Love this post (y)
Dude. Honey Nut Cheerios are definitely in my top five. haha
hahahaha i love this!!
Thank you, Danica, for reading!
I liked this article, but I would counter your point with one of my own. While I agree that there are things not worth compromising for a relationship (desire for children, desire to get married, desire for monogamy – or not) I would say that love is always going to bring compromise and trying to nail down someone into a mold of what you want before you pursue a relationship may be throwing away a chance at happiness if you nit pick every little thing or think your “someone special” has to come in a certain package. My husband and I are complete opposites, but because we have common interests and values we are perfect for each other. I guess my point is that having common interests is key, but don’t be afraid of a relationship with someone who is very different from you – they can introduce you to a whole new world of possibilities you may have never considered! I like your blog and will be following future posts. Thanks for following my blog, I came here to check yours out because of it and I’m glad I did.
I will agree actually that it is possible for opposites to attract and perfectly co-exist. Though I’ve seen far too many people compromise themselves in almost a panic to find a mate. Thank you for reading!
Clever and cute!
Thank you!
Amen…my feelings exactly. Thanks for posting it and reminding me that I am not in the wrong for thinking this way!
Thank you for reading, Mayleen!
Very wise words; the art of compromise has become so much a part of what I personally do at work and in many of my relationships that I forget that its not the most valuable skill to have in making a relationship with a man successful. In fact it can have just the opposite affect. Point well made and best of everything in finding what you seek. Looking forward to perusing the rest of your blog!
I agree. Being true to yourself can only better your relationship. Thank you for reading!
Wonderful piece…I love love love Lucky Charms and I don’t think it is a silly criteria for compatibly. I’ve seen people use a much more warped measuring stick to choose a partner. Good luck finding the sweet heart shaped marshmallows in your life
haha perfectly said! Thank you, and I seriously can’t tell you how much I love lucky charms. I recently had them for breakfast with vanilla almond milk, I highly reccomend it!