I’ve been in a hurry my whole life waiting for this moment.
It is such a great feeling when you first establish a certain comfort level in a new relationship, but the anticipation that builds prior to that comfort remains unmatched.
Sitting there, completely lost in thoughts of her. Biting your nails, restless, and feeling your heart beat as if it’s going to fly out of your chest. She consumes your every emotion. You try to go about your day as usual, but you are hopelessly in love, and you don’t even know how she feels about you yet. You are completely immersed in the anticipation, and begging the fates to see her soon because you can’t live without her. You’re DYING without her!
The art of anticipation is a powerful thing. It can drive you crazy, throw you in to fits of rage, and break you down in to a sobbing puddle. In a matter of hours you can be transformed from a thirty year old man to a child on Christmas Eve, unable to wait, unable to sleep, and crazy with hope.
I usually get like this after I get a woman’s number. Should I call her? I don’t want to seem to eager. I mean, I’m not desperate- but I can’t waaaaait to talk to her again! How soon is too soon?
Depending on who you talk to, the standard wait time to call a girl after she gives you her number differs. I’ve mostly heard either the next day or in three days- but neither really work for me. I just get too excited. Luckily, most people now constantly have their mobile phones glued to their hands, and although I may not “call” per say, I will absolutely shoot them a quick text message within the first 24 hours. I like to use one of two methods when I get a girl’s number. If I feel like she’s in a playful mood, I’ll text her immediately and tell her “Hey, this is Sabatino- Just so you don’t think you’re getting texts from some other creepy guy”. This lets her know that you fully intend on contacting her again and immediately opens the door for new conversations. If she’s in a hurry and leaving, I’ll text her later on that night saying “Hey! This is Sabatino. It was really great talking to you today. Hope you have a great night!”. Again, a simple text thanking her for the good conversation without asking for anything more is a great way to keep the lines of communication open and keep the pressure low.
From my experiences, women just don’t give out their number to random guys, so if you score her digits, it’s because she’s hoping you contact her. If she doesn’t respond to your texts, take the hint, she’s probably not that in to you. This is important: texting her over and over again because she’s not responding isn’t going to make her change her mind- it’s going to make her change her number. Your best bet is to save face and just leave her alone.