Love is like an addiction that you never want to give up.
The highs are high, and the lows are low. What will you do when you crash?
Love can be the most euphoric experience of your life, or it can be the most devastating thing to ever occur to you- and in most cases, it’s both. The realization that someone you love doesn’t share the same feelings for you can leave you feeling empty, abused, and foolish. So, how do you fight through those times when you feel like you want to crawl under a rock and die? Here’s how I handle myself, maybe some of these will work for you also.
1) Get enough sleep. It’s easy to fall in to the habit of late nights and early mornings when your mind is racing and won’t relax enough to fall asleep. I know you dread waking up the next morning to find yourself alone in bed, but sleep is such an integral part of your overall physical, emotional, and mental health. So much so that you need to place extra emphasis to fit it in.
2) Meditate or pray. Regardless of your stance on religion, meditation has been proven to lower stress levels and bring your mind and body back to a relaxed state. When I meditate, I like to sit upright in a chair with my hands, palm up, resting on the tops of my knees. I try to release everything rattling around in my head and let it go blank by focusing on my breathing- in through the nose, out through the mouth. It helps me if I count my breaths for the first few minutes, just to build up a rhythm. This is a great tool to use before attempting to sleep.
3) Screaming at the radio. I usually do this in the car while cruising down the highway because I wouldn’t want to disturb the neighbors, but I find turning up the radio and screaming out the lyrics to a few of my favorite upbeat songs really helps mellow me out. As I’m singing, I imagine myself just shouting all my frustrations out in to the air. This also helps from taking my frustrations out on my loved ones at home.
4) A little help from my friends. When my love life blows up in my face and I feel worthless, ugly, and unwanted, I find solace in knowing I can turn to my friends for a quick pick-me-up. Maybe it’s just some lazy conversation over coffee or a wild night at the pub, but friends are great for reminding you that your ex was no good anyway, and that you deserve soooo much better. Besides, what are friends for?
5) Laugh your way to health. Instead of submerging yourself in sappy movies that remind you of your heartache, dive in to some ridiculous comedies that lift your spirits and make you laugh. For me, laughter has always been the quickest way to mend my broken heart. A few nights of gut-busting humor and you’ll be on the road to recovery in no time.
What are some of the methods some of you use when rebounding from a broken heart?
(Photo curtesy of http://www.personal.psu.edu/afr3/blogs/siowfa12/2012/09/the-love-drug.html)
Great article – thank you. Kinda need some good advice right now! Thanks for following my blog too
I always thought that love impacted me more dramatically than others and questioned my “high highs and low lows”. Good article.