Building a strong foundation for your relationship isn’t always easy.
Sometimes as relationships mature and the novelty begins wearing off, you need to inject a little romance back in. If you find that you and your partner just aren’t quite as in sync as you used to be, try taking the 21 days of love challenge, and reignite the spark you once had for each other. What makes this challenge so successful is that it brings back the same childlike passion you had when you first met. It’s important to remember that this doesn’t work if you only commit to a few days- you need to be diligent in your efforts. Follow through with each day. Your relationship is counting on it.
I’ll be writing this from a male perspective, but it will work for women as well. This doesn’t have to be done in twenty-one consecutive days, nor does it have to be done in this order. Just make sure you’re doing one of these things at least every three days.
Day One: Give your wife a tight, embracing hug. Look her in the eyes and tell her you love her.
Day Two: Text or call your wife at a random part of your day to tell her that you’re thinking about her.
Day Three: Buy your wife a single flower today. Just to show you care.
Day Four: Call your wife before coming home from work and ask if she needs you to pick up anything.
Day Five: Ask your wife to name three ways you can be a better husband. Do this without fighting, and use it to better your relationship!
Day Six: Set aside an hour of alone time to spend with your wife. Spend this time talking and reconnecting.
Day Seven: Tell your wife one thing today that you appreciate about her, and thank her sincerely.
Day Eight: Offer to complete an errand for your wife (grocery shopping, cleaning, picking up the kids)
Day Nine: Give your wife a kiss on the cheek today before leaving, and again when you return. Do this every time you leave and return.
Day Ten: Handwrite your wife a love letter and leave it in a place you’ll know she’ll find it.
Day Eleven: Plan a romantic date for you and your wife. Send her an invite for a “romantic date night” through the mail.
Day Twelve: Send a half-dozen flower arrangement to your wife’s work. If she works at home, send them there.
Day Thirteen: Rewrite your wedding vows and give them to your wife.
Day Fourteen: Watch a movie with your wife and hold her hand.
Day Fifteen: Give your wife a back massage and tell her you will take care of the dishes or the laundry.
Day Sixteen: Bring home your wife’s favorite dessert.
Day Seventeen: Make dinner. Make her favorite foods and buy her favorite wine.
Day Eighteen: Buy her something small on Amazon.com and have it sent to her work. Spend no more than $10.
Day Nineteen: Make your wife a “mixtape” of all the songs that remind you of her.
Day Twenty: Randomly make out with your wife in your car in a parking lot. Show her you still have that passion.
Day Twenty-one: Dress up and re-propose to your wife. Remind her how excited you were when you first got married.
If done with complete sincerity, these 21 steps will certainly remind your wife why she married you in the first place. Not everything on here will be easy for you to do, depending on the status of your relationship- but you’re going to have to set it all aside and give it all you’ve got. If you’ve done all this and you’re still unable to rekindle your love, then at least you can hold your head high knowing you gave 110%. Naturally, I’ll be here to answer any questions you may have. Good luck!
I actually started to cry a little reading this. Just the thought of my husband doing one of the things in the 21 day challenge would remind me why I married him. Unfortunately the bad outweighs the good. I don’t know why I got married. I believe I was content they way we were before. I don’t know, BUT the challenge is really amazing. Especially for the men who already do these things and make their wives feel special every moment of their lives. I’d appreciate an hour, uninterrupted, of just conversation.
wow! this is so sweet..
Thank you! I hope it can help salvage someone’s relationship down the road.
Good stuff! Keep up the great work and thanks for following me!
Good Stuff! Keep up the good work! Thanks for following me on my web site
Good stuff!! Keep up the good work!
Thank you for following my blog. Your view on love is refreshing, and this challenge is a great idea!
The 21 Day Love Challenge–this is great! Thanks for the reminder that there are good men out there, and men that will keep choosing to invest in their spouse. Very encouraging!
Thank you, Sabatino, for following my blog (jennycantu.com) and liking my post: “Facing My Giant.” It was a pleasure to visit yours and read this post – it reminded me of The Love Dare as seen in the movie, Fireproof. Have you heard of it? 7 years and 3 children later, some of the simplest things really go a long way. Thank you for sharing! Be blessed! – J.C.
I’m currently no where close to being married, however I really love all of these simple things one can do for another while they’re married to keep the passion alive. Not only that, but I really love how vulnerable you are in all your posts and want to thank you for a fresh perspective. And thanks for following me too!
Hi Sabatino,
Thanks for the follow and liking my blog… I LOVE this, especially your love letters – you’re so sweet! All the best with your quest, how can you lose with sentiments like this?!
Eryn xx
Thanks, Eryn! Those letters come straight from the heart and are my outlet for all the crazy emotions I feel sometimes. Glad you liked them and thanks for reading!
Very good! Excellent!
Ciao,
tomas
Thank you, Tomas!
Thank you for following my blog! I enjoyed your list of romantic activities.
Thank you for reading, Gracie!
Nice sentiments. I was married for 40 years and came to appreciate the woman I had married more and more each day. I tried, albeit not always successfully, to listen patiently to her words and her heart; to give her prime time, not the leftovers of my time; to praise her; to pitch in with her responsibilities; to give her some surprises; to continually court her; and to treat her like a queen in front of other people.
Congrats on your 40 years! That really is amazing. You must know all the secrets.
Hi Sabatino,
It was so nice to see you show up as a follower of my Move Into Change blog.
I love this 21 day challenge,so many of things my husband and I do often (29 years married)are here, but I see a few I could try out. I’ll let you know how it goes,
Judy
Awesome! Let me know how it goes, Judy!
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This article works beautifully with a post I just wrote. I hope you don’t mind, but I’d love to put in a link to this article.
Absolutely, thank you so much!
This is fantastic!! May I share it on my blog? I absolute love it.
Please do! I would be honored. Thank you!
I love your mindset. I would love to have your permission to read some of your blogs on my radio program:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/nonangrychocolatechick
Let me know if it’s OK
Thanks
Hi Ms. Ruth! Yes, of course you can! I would be honored to be a part of your program. Just let me know when and where we can find it so I can let the readers know when to tune in. Thanks so much!
Lovely!
Thank you!
These activities do work. The idea of a 21 day jumpstart is a great idea. Luckily my wife and I have been doing such things regularly for the 16 years of our marriage, which is the ‘secret’ to our marriage’s success. There is no real secret. The point is to love – love as a verb. An action verb. Love with intention as often as possible (which is almost always!).
I don’t know if I could ever put it as eloquently as you have here, but I love that you keep these things as a regular occurance in your marraige. As I’m sure we all have been in failing relationships at some point, it’s important to cherish the one you’re with. You must treat each relationship as if there’s no one else in this world for you.