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don’t wait to resolve issues

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I know you won’t admit it.

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I also know you’ve been thinking about her all day and it’s killing you, but you’re both stuck at work and nothing can be done until tonight.

I’ve been there all too often.  In fact, sometimes I’m there when I don’t even have to be because I have a tendency to over-analyze EVERYTHING.

This is why I try my hardest to implement a rule in every relationship that no one sleeps until all issues of the day are resolved- furthermore, no one sleeps alone.  That means, husbands should always share beds with their wives, and wives shouldn’t ever banish their husbands to the couch.  This is about dealing with relationship issues together, as a couple, and as a team.

You’ve just had a fight over finances.  She thinks you spend too much on your daily lunch at work, while you think she spends too much on internet shopping.  You have a big blow out over dinner, and the issue isn’t resolved by bed time.  You go to work the next day exhausted from the fighting, and you only caught a few hours of sleep on the couch.  All day long you let the situation fester inside of you and you can’t take it anymore.  You go home and explode like a volcano, unleashing complete hell on your wife and family.  The fighting rages on for the next three days.  What have you accomplished?

Relationships are rarely perfect.  They take work, and patience. The truth is, issues will arise, and if you’re not willing to confront those issues with sincerity, tact, and a sense of urgency, your relationship and family could suffer.  Before you let things get out of hand, ask yourself these questions:

What am I trying to accomplish?  Is it realistic?  Is it obtainable?  What is the timeframe I’m shooting for?  Is it in the best interest of our family, or just myself?

And geeez!  Sit down with your wife and figure this all out before bed.  No one sleeps until we come to an agreement!  That being said, compromise.  Sometimes you have to give in a little.  It’s okay.  That’s why they’re your partner, you can trust them.  You may still go to bed a little irritated, but by the morning, you’ll both be much more inclined to discuss each other’s ideas.

This is love.  This is what it means to be in a relationship.  Be selfless.  Be a man.

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the secret handshake of love

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What if you could pick up the girl of your dreams just by shaking her hand?

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Wait! Wait!  Hear me out!

I know this is going to sound absolutely ridiculous, especially to all you women, but I swear this works.  At least, in my experiences it has worked- and I would give it a success rate of roughly 85%, which may not sound too promising but honestly, when you’re looking for companionship you’ll try anything.

So you see a girl at the bar, you’ve taken a liking to her, and you’re looking for a way to break the ice.  Tell the bartender you would like to buy her next drink and to let her know you sent it over. When she gets the drink, if she has any class, she’ll smile, wave, and thank you.  That’s simple enough.  Now go introduce yourself with confidence, like meeting a new client at work.  Smile, eye contact, and a firm hand shake.  The first two come standard, but here’s the important part- the secret handshake of love.  Don’t tell anyone!

The handshake starts out like any normal handshake- open palm, thumb pointed to the ceiling, inviting, and not rigid.  You grasp their hand firmly, because a firm handshake is a sign of confidence.  Don’t hold their hand any longer than you would an important client and make sure you look them in the eyes, and smile.  Now here’s where we separate the men from the boys.

As the handshake is coming to a close, and your hands begin to pull back, slightly -and I emphasize ever so slightly- begin tilting your hand while still grasping hers so that your palm is now facing the ceiling and your thumb is pointing to the right.  As your hands continue to retract, allow your fingers to curl up and graze her fingertips.  That’s all there is to it.  So, how does that help me, you ask?

The theory behind this is that the handshake, eye contact, and smile are all very common forms of greeting, thus women find it less threatening and more comfortable.  Though she may not be aware of it, while your fingertips slide past hers, you are actually sending a subliminal message to her brain that you’re interested in her.

Don’t believe me?    Try it next time you’re out and let me know how it works out for you.  As I mentioned, I have had success with this, so it’s not complete bollocks.