Apparently our relationship wasn’t worth fighting for.
When I was living in South Africa, I was in a relationship that was once very strong, but had begun to show a multitude of weaknesses. Her dedication to me was faltering and I was quickly being thrown in to panic mode.
I was struggling to come to terms with the situation and thinking myself in circles about how to get our love back on the right track. Then one day as I went to use the shower, I noticed she had posted this sign on the back of the door. It hit me like a ton of bricks. “If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours…” I thought about it for a while, in fact, most of the day. The words rattled over and over through my mind. I mean, I knew I loved her and was pretty sure she still loved me- was I too smothering? Is that what she was trying to tell me? Did she need a break from “us”? Did she want me to set her free from our relationship. as the poster suggested?
Later on that night we discussed our situation, and I indeed set her free with every expectation of her coming back. She never did. I have to admit, I think I got some bad advice from the seagull on the back of the door. Ever since then I cringe when someone offers similar advice, not because I regret the decision, but because I don’t believe it.
Listen, that night I sat there and watched someone I loved walk out the door. I just sat there! Lesson learned.
Don’t trust the seagull. What I also learned from that night is our relationship apparently wasn’t important enough for me to fight for- don’t let this be you. Love is so important in our lives. If you meet the girl of your dreams, you HAVE to fight for her. It might take you days, weeks, months, or even years, but if you know in your heart that she’s the one, don’t just sit back and watch her walk out the door. Be a man, stand up for your relationship, and fight to the death.